Sunday, July 29, 2007

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde





We have had a couple of interesting days. Yesterday, Maggie was a complete terror. She screamed almost every time that she was "thwarted" in some way. In fact, she screamed even when we did things as innocuous as, ummmm, picking her up. It was incredibly unpleasant. It got so bad that we started to think that something might be wrong with her (e.g. an ear infection or the perpetual teething issues.) Honestly, yesterday was perhaps the worst sustained behavior that she's exhibited, well, almost ever. Even though we went to IKEA, which she found to be a pretty fun experience, and bought some little kid furniture that you'll see in the pics.

But how quickly things change! Today, we had sweet, funny, adventurous baby. Hugged the dog. Grinned at us. Napped like a champ. And ate essentially everything that we put in front of her - Tomatoes! Squash! Corn! All eaten for the first time ever! Fantastic!

I have no idea how kids are wired. But the difference between yesterday and today makes me think that I'll never understand her. What's going on in that little head? As I told Abby earlier tonight, "She probably understands a lot more that we give her credit for, but a lot less than she thinks."

By the way, Maggie has been working on her goofy "picture smile." See if you can identify that look in the photos included below.



And another video in which Maggie shows off her verbal skills (a nana!)

Friday, July 27, 2007

Random developments

I haven't posted in a while, but that's because I don't have any real "deep" insights into life with a kid. But I'll post some random observations about the kid (and the dog):

  • Margaret's vocabulary is developing steadily, but she still has a way to go. "Nana" is a favorite word, but she often uses it for any food of interest. Still, I think that she is starting to actually know "banana" since she yelled "nana" a number of times yesterday when we passed the bananas in Trader Joe's. No one except for me appreciated her insight. "Bye, bye" also gets a lot of mileage especially if it's accompanied by a hand wave.
  • Margaret likes to hold Maddie's leash during walks. Sometimes that works ok, but two related problems arise. First, Margaret is too slow. She gets distracted by. . . well, by just about everything. Then the second problem: Maddie pulls too hard for Margaret leading the kid to occasionally topple over.
  • Next, Maggie is starting to show a sense of humor. A few days ago, we were in the kitchen making dinner when she looked at me and yelled "Ahhh!" Guffaws and giggles followed. I then yelled "Ahhh!" More guffaws and giggles. We then started trading Ahhh's back and forth, giggling each time. In the rare occasion when we yelled at the same time, gales of laughter.
  • Our couch sits about three feet from our exterior wall. Maggie likes to run around the couch with me chasing her. Chasing isn't quite an accurate characterization since it's not clear that she's trying to get away. But she does love when I duck down behind the couch and pop up when she "finds" me. Completely hilarious, it would seem.
  • Sleeping problems have arisen again. Up at 2:00 AM or so the last few nights. My friends at work have told me that we have to be careful about indulging her summons since this is the time when she really starts to learn how to manipulate us at night. So we may have to start closing the door and ignoring any nighttime complaints.
  • Her initial reaction to all foods (except for nanas, raisins and bread) still involves skepticism. She stares at the food for a moment and then glances around as if to say "Where's the good stuff?" Followed by some pawing at the food. But unlike in the past, lately she's actually tried a few things that she really should like. Such a pasta. Hurray! Eating pasta is important since we eat a lot of it. But the kid has rejected it every time without even a taste until the last week. And then beans and rice, neither of which have been even tasted in the past. She wolfed down so many beans tonight that we thought she might burst. She still might (lovely thoughts of diapers tomorrow when she won't be at daycare), but at least she's eating stuff that I cook.
  • A few times, we've passed a car that had music thumping. Last weekend, someone drove by playing a loud rap song. And on the way home today, we passed a car playing loud reggae music. In both cases, Maggie started to bob up and down.
So that's an update about random events that mainly will help me remember this time when I use this blog as an archive of the kid's early years. And those hardcore baby fans should appreciate it (or at least the pic at the beginning) as well.

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

Our (Sun)Rocket has crashed

It would appear that my experiment with VOIP telephone service (i.e. phone service via the internet) using the start-up Sunrocket has ended badly as they have fired most of their staff and appear to be on the verge of bankruptcy. Our phone is working only sporadically at this point. So for those of you who wish to contact us by phone, use our cell phone numbers. Even if we end up eating our most recent charges to Sunrocket - which might not happen if I can dispute the charges with our credit card - we still did better than we would have with Verizon. And it's fascinating to read through some of the tech threads about the demise of this company, something that I would have completely missed had I not been a customer. (It would appear that a "Requiem to Sunrocket" a la that to Martha would be appropriate, but I don't have it in me.)

Now many of you don't care about our phone service or Sunrocket - you want a baby update! This morning began with the dangerous words "I need to get into work early today" spoken by Abby. I noticed an odd smell while getting out of bed and again noted it when I stuck my head into Maggie's room where she was sitting up and grinning at me. Turns out that Maggie barfed during the night and then experienced the misfortune of rolling around in it a bit before she woke up. Lovely. We cleaned her up (two baths) and she didn't seem to be in any discomfort, so we debated whether to take her to daycare, thinking that this could be an isolated event. When she showed little interest in her morning Cheerios (still happy and grinning, though), we decided that she should stay home. Maggie and I ended up napping together from 9:00 until 11:30. Which was quite nice as was the cuddly baby who seems to appear whenever Maggie is feeling blue, but the later runny diapers and one last barfing event sealed the case that we had made the right decision to keep her home. Our friend Rodah is coming tomorrow to watch her.

By the way, while spending the day with her, I've noticed that her verbal skills have improved dramatically. Not in terms of making sense as her actual vocabulary is still limited to Mama, Addie (short for Maddie - and you have to say it in a sing-song way that puts more emphasis on the first syllable), and nana (short for banana.) But her ability to put long runs of non-sensical sounds together, along with nuances in tone that suggest an attempt to communicate something subtle (occasionally accompanied by demonstrative hand gestures and facial expressions), is quite impressive. We had a number of conversations in which she and I went back and forth, her with her general nonsense and me with my nonsense replies given the lack of context.

Monday, July 16, 2007

A Requiem for Martha



Abby informed me that Martha Kitty Cat has passed on. While Martha only lived with us for a brief time (alas before the advent of digital photos, so we don't have any easily accessible photos of her), I'll pass along some thoughts about and memories of her.

In the fall of 1998, we were living in a bright, sunny apartment on the third floor of a three-flat building on N. Clifton Ave. in Chicago. From the back porch, I could see the lights of Wrigley Field and hear the faint roar of the crowd when the Cubs were playing. Our favorite, inexpensive Indian restaurant, Moti Mahal, was right around the corner (Moti Mahal changed ownership shortly after we left Chicago and was never the same again.) I was working on my dissertation while Abby was working nasty hours at a big law firm. At some point, it became clear that I wasn't going to finish my dissertation in time to get a job that year, so we decided that the natural course of action was to get a dog. Some research suggested that we should get a Border Collie, the smartest darn dog breed out there, so we ended up driving to a farm out past De Kalb, way west of Chicago, where we met a red and white bundle of fur who wiggled around between our legs and licked our faces. Abby carried Maddie wrapped up in a blanket on the way home.

At the same time, Abby's sister Eleanor was travelling through Central America. She had left her stuff, most notably her cat Martha, with her boyfriend in Chicago at the time, a fellow named Mike. At some point, Eleanor and Mike had a falling out at which point Mike decided that he wanted to unload all of Eleanor's possessions despite her absence. Since we were the most natural recipients, we inherited everything. Including Eleanor's Steely Dan CDs and, more importantly, the cat. After a few weeks of negotiations, Mike ended up depositing everything, including the cat, with us on almost the exact day that we brought Maddie, the puppy, home.

Even then, Martha was reputed to be an older cat - it was speculated that she was around 9 years old at the time. As an older cat, Martha had no interest in the shenanigans of a puppy. Maddie would rush up with lots of gusto at which point Martha would hiss and swing at the dog. Despite being declawed, Martha was intimidating enough that her posturing would send Maddie scurrying behind the futon against the wall.

But while Martha won every battle with Maddie, she couldn't win the war due to our natural bias towards the puppy and Martha's general lack of enthusiasm for confrontation. We had a small office/alcove off the living room that we blocked off with a buffet to keep out the dog. Martha spent most of her time during the day loitering in that area or lounging on the buffet watching the silly puppy dog. Occasionally, I would give Martha the remnants of a tuna fish can, which could entice her to enter the main part of the house. The nighttime, however, was Martha's time. At night, we'd close Maddie up in her crate at which point Martha would prowl through the apartment, hunting mice during the notorious mouse infestation that we experienced in that apartment and eventually winding up on our bed to sleep.



I remember one time when Maddie was outside at an unexpected time at night. Martha walked to the crate and looked in the front door. She seemed baffled by the absence of the puppy. She then walked around to the side of the crate and lifted herself up to peer through the side screen as if the new vantage point would reveal the location of the dog. Once she realized that the dog wasn't there, she dashed back to the safety of her office.

At the same time, Martha could be mean to Maddie. Not only did she know that her hissing terrified the dog, but she would also loiter in front of Maddie's crate at night, preening and grooming herself while the dog whined. Payback is hell, she seemed to be saying to the dog.

Eventually, however, Maddie earned nighttime bed privileges at which point Martha and Maddie arrived at a sort of nighttime truce. Martha would sleep at the head of the bed up with us, while Maddie would sleep where she still sleeps to this day, at the foot of the bed. An occasional, dispassionate hiss was all that was needed to keep everyone in line.

Martha was an incredibly affectionate cat. She would meow and curl in and out of your legs until you gave her attention. She is with us today since the phrase "Martha Kitty Cat" still sends Maddie into a paroxysm in which she runs around searching for the cat. My personal attitude about cats has always been that there are good cats and bad cats, but the problem is that, unlike with a dog, you cannot train a bad cat to become a good cat. Although I haven't seen her in years (the last time I saw her in the late 90s in Oakland, she smelled Maddie and ran for cover), Martha truly was a good cat.

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

The cause of recent sleeping problems - Slurpies?!?

On both Sunday and Monday night, Maggie woke in the middle of the night with vigorous hollers and refused to go back down for some time. On Monday night, I actually stayed up with her for about 1.5 hours since she was oh so close to falling asleep, but never quite got there (she and I spent some time lying on the rug in her room trying to sleep with no success as she kept squirming and fussing even though her eyes were half shut.) What caused such poor sleep performance and such inexplicable difficulties settling down? We cannot know for sure, but I have a potential culprit: Slurpies. Around 5:00 PM on both Sunday and Monday, Maggie consumed some (not a lot, but some) Coca-Cola Slurpie. The second day was especially fun as she learned how to suck on a straw. It's quite possible that her sleeping problems stemmed from the sugar and caffeine found in a Slurpie. Again, she didn't get much, but perhaps a little Slurpie goes a long way in terms of screwing up the sleep patterns of an infant. In light of such a possibility, we're closely monitoring her sleep patterns and regulating her Slurpie intake (to zero.)

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Medical minutiae

We went to the 15 month check-up today. Margaret was tired (as befits a kid who had woken up hollering in the middle of the night the last two days), but was really active, something that the doctor noted as the kid tried to climb all over the place. Currently, she's 32.5 inches tall which puts her in the 95th percentile for height and 22 pounds 12 ounces which puts her in the 50th percentile for weight. So she still appears to be our tall, lean little supermodel.

She also got three shots and had blood drawn (to check whether, for example, the 21st century DC plumbing system was poisoning her with lead.) In the past, this type of event led to hollering, but the lead-up wasn't too traumatic. This time, however, her vigorous objections and squirming required both Abby and me to hold her down while the poor nurse (always the same one, poor woman, which has to be unpleasant, sort of like being the grim reaper since every kid screams after her appearance) jabbed her with needles.

Finally, we had to fill out a questionaire to determine her development level. Her genetic predecessors will be pleased to know that, while she's only 15 months old, she's displaying skills comparable to those of a 2 year old. Naturally, since she obviously is a most exceptional child.

By the way, the questions involved things like: "When you perform house cleaning, does your child mimic your activities?" As the following pics of Maggie with our friend Rodah indicate, she sure does.


Sunday, July 8, 2007

Hitting the museums in DC

First, a new trick that I've learned from my blogging buddy at work - adding a soundtrack to the blog. So please don't hesitate to click on the "play" button of the link below to get the sound system working.



Since it was pretty darn hot today (but luckily not too humid), we decided that it was a good day to take advantage of some of the museums in DC. Our arrival at the Mall area coincided with Maggie's naptime, so we decided to start at a museum for the adults, the Freer Gallery of Art which specializes in Asian art. Despite our expectations, Margaret didn't crash immediately upon our arrival, and her vocalizing (which really was nothing given her skills at fussing) led some evil woman to give me the stink eye in one of the rooms before she reversed direction and headed to another room. I was so perturbed that when Maggie fell asleep shortly thereafter, I insisted on trailing the woman and her friend for a while, trying futilely to give dirty looks back at her, even though it involved retracking our steps through a few rooms. I'm sure that in my pre-kid days, I may have rolled my eyes upon seeing infants, especially if they were near me on an airplane. But now I'm much more sensitive to slights from non-baby people when my kid is doing nothing but practicing her "talking" for pete's sake.
Despite the heat, when Maggie woke, we wandered around the Mall for a bit checking out the sights especially the Folklife Festival where we got to see lots of musical performances ranging from bluegrass to southeast Asian music, all of which the kid loved, leading her to stare, point and occasionally dance. At this point, her dancing involves fairly arrhythmic bouncing and head bobbing along with the music, but it will get better, and she certainly has the appropriate level of enthusiasm.

We then braved the crowds by heading to the big kahuna of museums on the Mall, the Air and Space Museum. From childhood trips to DC, my recollection of the Air and Space Museum, corroborated by a guidebook that we have, is that lots of the displays are woefully out of date (e.g. "Someday Man might walk on the moon!") While some of that still existed (e.g. "Aircraft in the 1980s" accompanied by great photos of people with lovely 1980s hair), the museum is pretty neat. The big front rooms with all of the rockets and planes, along with the descriptions of the "space race" between the USA and the USSR (we won!), are fascinating. At some point, I turned to Abby and said, "You know, this is pretty darn cool." And the whole place is big enough that despite the masses of humanity that the museum draws (apparently, the highest attendance museum in the world), it doesn't feel too crowded, and Margaret had lots of room to roam (within reason).All in all, a great day. Really makes me realize how great it is to live in DC and be able to hit wonderful museums on a whim. In the end, though, the best part of the day from Maggie's point of view probably occurred when she was able to beat the heat by playing in sprinklers in front of a big federal office building. Such fun....

Thursday, July 5, 2007

The Fourth in DC

On Wednesday, we met up with my colleague Dorothee and her family to watch the fireworks from the Fed. A nasty storm swept through the area around 6:00 PM, apparently causing everyone to clear the Mall, but we waited for it to pass, walked down to the Fed around 7:30, ate a few hamburgers, and then settled into seats on the terrace at the Fed to watch the show.

The Fed is, I suspect, the BEST place in all of DC to watch the fireworks. The Fed is located on Constitution Ave between the Washington and Lincoln Monuments right across from the duck ponds and reflecting pool over which they shoot off the fireworks. And the viewing site at the Fed is on the fifth floor with a big balcony for seating so that you get a clear view of the entire mall while the fireworks are going off right above you. It's a pretty cool experience, especially the shimmering fireworks that drift towards you as they descend. Imagine watching your local fireworks from your apartment balcony right across the street and you have the basic idea. But ratchet up the fireworks display a lot (after all, this is THE NATION's premier fireworks show), make your apartment balcony much bigger, and toss in a thousand or so Fed employees and family members including Chairman Ben dressed in eminently casual clothing - no one is sure if Greenspan actually owned casual clothing, but the consensus seems to be that, if he did, he never would have worn them to the fireworks show at the Fed in the unlikely event that he would've attended at all. (Dorothee's husband Alex wanted to get a picture of her and her kids with the Chairman which they probably could have pulled off as a good souvenir to show their French friends, but no one had the guts to do it.)

Last year, we watched the show from the big terrace outside of the Kennedy Center which was also a pretty good vantage point, but we weren't nearly as close as this year. And Margaret didn't appreciate the show last year at all - she fell asleep in the Baby Bjorn shortly before they started. This year, even though the start was well after her bedtime, she had taken a late nap and was well prepared despite the work-out she experienced careening through the cafeteria and dining rooms of the fifth floor of the Fed in a manic quasi-running motion (the 5th floor is great for that type of adventure since there are no hazards and fragile items that generally cause problems for a toddler - except for other people, all of whom were very tolerant of her presence.) During the show, she sat on my lap and stared with big, somewhat hypnotized and sleepy eyes at the sparkling lights while I covered her ears against the percussive booms. Occasionally, she would raise an arm to point at the fireworks using the seemingly universal gesture that toddlers use to indicate something of note.

By the way, I have to admit that I forgot my camera at home, so I pinched the above photo from another website (which, if you notice, must have been taken from Virginia to get that view of the monuments and Capitol.) And, anyway, the guy who took this photo is obviously a pro, while my version would have probably just depicted smoke.